How many things have you not
done out of fear of judgment?
How many outfits have you changed?
How many times have you put on the red lipstick only to quickly wipe it off?
Not ordered the desert.
Not said what you wanted to say…
How many times has fear of judgement stopped you in your tracks?
Seth Godwin says those are the only two choices; risk being judged or be ignored. I agree.
Both suck, but
one sucks worse.
Judgment I can deal with. Ignoring my dreams, my wants, or even my desire for dessert, I cannot.
In saving ourselves from the potential of judgment from others we are ignoring our wants. When is that trade off ever ok?
Being judged is uncomfortable, but most of it is in our heads. No one cares about us as much as we think they do.
Sometimes we are being judged; that is also uncomfortable, but judgment is really an amazing tool.
It is a mirror. It reflects exactly what we desire for ourselves,
what we are afraid of, or what we do not understand…
(more on that soon)
In allowing yourself to be (potentially) judged, you are giving permission to someone else to set themselves free. Every time you wear the lipstick you let another woman know it is OK to do so as well. That is cool.
Or of course, we can all play it safe.
Never buy a crop top or a pair of big hoops. Make sure your makeup is muted, god forbid you attract any attention to yourself.
You can never go to the gym, that is far too risky, so much danger there; think of all the judgements you could encounter!
You can play small of the rest of your life, never be judged. How amazing would a life like that be?? (if you can't tell, I am being extremely sarcastic)
Or you can do that thing you have always wanted to do but are scared to do because what will they think? What will they say??
Like Marianne Williamson says, who are you to be this brave, this beautiful, the bold??
Who are you NOT to be?
In shining you give permission to let everything around you do the same.
Every time you say no to yourself over fear of judgment you are ignoring your wants and needs.
Ignoring who you really are and what you are capable of. Who could you be if got out of your own way and stopped playing small?
Judgement shouldn’t be feared.
It is coming from far away, rows and rows back in the cheap seats.
Do not take criticism from people you wouldn’t take advice from. Judgement is cheap, flimsy, and fleeting. Wait five seconds and it will be gone, they will find something or someone else to place their judgements on.
At the end of the day we all want to be seen and seen for who we really are. If fear of judgment is holding you back ask yourself if ignoring your wants is really playing safe, or is it playing small?